The Best Advice I Received this Year


Have you ever attended an event where there was a keynote speaker who said something that made you feel as if you were the only person in the room and that person was ministering directly to you and only you? Well that happened to me a couple weeks ago while attending a half-day leadership conference at my MBA Alma Mater (Rollins College). It was a simulcast with leadership authority John C. Maxwell who was teaching some of the principles in his latest book, “Good Leaders Ask Great Questions.”

Here’s the thing…I’ve understood the power of questions for quite some time, it was Dr. Rick who taught me that we lead with questions, not answers. And Tony Robbins who affirmed something along the lines of the quality of our life being directly related to the quality of the questions that we ask. Not just of others, but more importantly of ourselves. Translation: ask crappy questions of yourself and get crappy results – sorry couldn’t sugar coat that one :-)

So what was it that Mr. Maxwell said that had me sit up straight-er in my seat and really and truly ponder this statement as the best advice I’ve received in 2014.

Maxwell simply said…

“You’re one question away from an answer that will change your life.”

That was it.

I couldn’t believe it!

Just one question.

Only one question away from and answer that would change my life forever. Talk about powerful.

He then went on to say that questions actually unlock doors that otherwise would remain closed; and the greatest doors of opportunity are always locked. I’ll repeat that…the greatest doors of opportunity are always locked. And the only way to unlock these doors is to use the key of a great question.


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How to Unleash Your Inner DIVA (in just four steps!)

Let’s Talk Legacy Episode 017: How to Unleash Your Inner DIVA (in just 4 steps!)

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In this episode, author, speaker and DIVA Academy Founder, Shalena DIVA shares her four step process to help you unleash your inner DIVA. She also riffs about the power of the words that we use, why having the courage to live your legacy is critical for future generations, and why you should be your own Shero.

You can listen to this episode in itunes or here

Shalena’s quote to live by (a poem written by Shalena DIVA)


When I See You by When I see you, I see a world of possibility
When I see you, I see a world of second chances
When I see you, I see a future waiting to be fulfilled
When I see you, I see a future Queen

When I see you, I see a confident woman
When I see you, I see a strong woman
When I see you, I see a beautiful woman
When I see you, I see a future Queen

When I see you, I see brilliance
When I see you, I see resilience
When I see you, I see intelligence
When I see you, I see a future Queen

How could it be that I don’t know you, yet I see so much?
The answer is simple, but profound nonetheless

I see so much in you, because in you I see ME!

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“Discover, Invest, Value and Appreciate your God given gifts and talents, and build your life around them.”

“Being a DIVA can help you leave a legacy.”

“The people whom you are meant to serve are going to be carbon copies of who you once were.”

“…the answer they’re seeking has been within them all along.”

Who’s your Shero?

I am my own Shero.

No one can convince you to change or become a better person except for you. If you become your own Shero it makes you more responsible for your happiness, for your well-being, for your overall health. The DIVA taught me how to encourage myself, and go after my dreams.

There is a crown just above your head, but you have to grow into it.
You are the queen. You write the script. You write your own story and hopefully you’re the leading lady in your story.

How would you define legacy?
What you would love to leave behind. But you can’t create your legacy unless you live it today.
Legacy is not selfish. When the future generations come along they will be able to learn from you. Legacy is about having the courage to live your life today and document it.

“We must excavate document our lives because if we don’t our existence will be like a relic something that is misunderstood.” — Opal Palmer Adisa

Shalena’s book recommendations

Best advice from Shalena
Really quiet the chatter in your mind. Quiet all the voices…and really learn how to become silent so that you can hear. You need to take time out every morning. Get quiet so that you can just hear yourself.

What Shalena is most excited about
My YouTube Channel. I’m really excited about the content I’ll be creating to help you deal with your inner woman.

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