How to eliminate your fear once and for all



Let’s face it. We’ve all experienced fear before. Those nerve-wracking moments leading up to something BIG. Your heart is racing, your palms and/or underarms start to perspire, and your knees may even begin to feel weak or start knocking. Definitely NOT one of the greatest feelings out there.

But here’s the great news…
Perhaps you’ve written a book, launched a business, or landed an interview for your dream job; and now you have to sell someone on that book, biz or why you’re the best candidate for the job. Or…maybe you’re going to be having a baby in the near future (okay, well that’s me – ha!) All familiar yet fear inducing activities right? Well here’s the great news…they don’t have to be, and here’s how you can make that your truth.

3 Steps to help you move through your fear so you can emerge energized, inspired, and happy (no matter the outcome)
Step 1

Fear is just excitement without the breath.” – Fritz Perls <— click to tweet!

You guessed it. Breathe.
It was psychiatrist Fritz Perls who identified that the very same mechanisms in our bodies that produce excitement, also produce fear. Here’s the best part, our fears can be transformed into excitement when we breathe into them. Think about it. When you’re scared your breath gets shorter, cutting off the oxygen supply that your blood vessels so desperately need in order move through your body giving you the strength to stand firm, use your voice, or simply feel comfortable in your own skin. When you start to feel the fear begin to take slow, deep breaths and feel that fear morph into excitement!
Step 2
In Susan Jeffers amazing book “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway,” she reveals that at the heart of every fear, there is one simple (yet profound) fear: the fear that we won’t be able to handle it. If you lose your job, you’re not afraid of losing your job; you fear you won’t be able to handle what comes after losing your job.
If you totally bomb that presentation, you’re not afraid of bombing the presentation, you’re afraid you won’t be able to handle it (live with the embarrassment) IF you bomb that presentation. So in addition to breathing slowly and deeply. You must prepare. Because there is really nothing you can’t handle (and nothing you should fear) if you prepare.
Afraid you’re going to bomb that presentation?
Practice. Rehearse. Know your material inside and out to the point where you could give the talk in your sleep, then go out there rock it.
This goes for having a baby too. The beauty of being pregnant for 9 months is having all of that time to prepare (mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally) to create the birth experience that you want (even if things don’t go as planned), there’s nothing to fear because you’re prepared.
Step 3
Do it anyway.
“Do the thing you fear the most and the death of fear is certain.” – Mark Twain
Yep. Do it anyway. If you prepare, breathe and accept the truth that everything you’ve experienced up until this point has prepared you for this moment then feel the fear, and do it anyway. Because once you do it, you won’t be afraid anymore.
Remember how scared you were riding a two wheeler for the first time? With your caregiver holding the back of your bike seating jogging behind you and then letting you ride off into the sunset? Then you look up and realize you’re doing it all by yourself. You did it! Same goes for your fears. If selling, having a child, moving across the country, whatever that BIG thing is that’s calling you.

Do it anyway and the death of fear is certain.

After that…rinse and repeat!

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Now go do something that scares you so you can make today count!

Coach T


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